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Old 12-06-2008, 01:42 AM
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Bullying Classmate: How to act about..
My daughter last school year was in nursery 2 (she's five years old), and she had this very naughty classmate who would keep pulling her hair, writing or drawing on her dress, pinching and poking her, eating her snacks, and many times she had come to us about this problem saying that she had this boy in her class who kept hurting her and eating her food. She has always been taught to just ignore classmates who behave bad, and this is exactly how she deals with this kid.

My mother had already had a talk with my daughter's teacher about this, and the teacher had secretly told my mom that the boy seemed to have psychological deficiencies because he always seems to be in his own world and had a very abnormal relationship with the other kids.

Since that talk we decided to explain to my daughter that this certain boy was different and to just tell her teacher if he hurts her so she can call his attention and have him stop.

How about you, how would you deal with the situation if you found out that your child is getting bullied at his or her school?
It is not what a parent expects to happen when she sends her child to school and it's a very scary thought, but it is something that really does happen, and so if this happened to your child, how do you act about it?
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Old 13-06-2008, 07:42 PM
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A situation like you described could turn out very traumatic for your own child and therefore I think you should put her emotional wellbeing before anything else .
A boy with psychological deficiencies should be put under treatment so he would not become a traumatic factor for his colleagues.
The fact that other children are different doesn't mean you should accept your child to be hurt by them .
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Old 14-06-2008, 05:24 PM
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Just because the boy had some problems doesn't entitle him to do all those naughty things on other kids. It is simply not an excuse. The teachers there have to do something. Something like taking any extra eye on the boy or take the necessary disciplines on him. In my kindergarten, we dealt with this sort of kids everyday. Even though it is difficult initially, if you means business, they do hear you out! The thing is you must be very strict to them.
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Old 14-06-2008, 10:49 PM
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I found that to be a wrong attitude the teacher telling about another parents ' child that he's having psychological deficiencies and not to his own parents .
There have to be special classes arranged for these children and a special needs specialized teacher who would know how to successfully deal with them.
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Old 15-06-2008, 06:40 AM
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I would talk to the teacher and let her know what was going on with my child. The fact that the boy might have some kind of problems should not mean that he can hurt others. The teacher or the principal of the school should speak to the boy's mother. Perhaps the boy should be put into some kind of class where he can be helped.

Your child, and other children should be left to deal with this situation.

Bullies, no matter what the reason, should not be tolerated where they can hurt others.
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Old 17-06-2008, 08:23 PM
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Actually there were times when I'd hear about these complaints from my daughter and get mad at this boy, but I always try to remember that he is just a kid and I am an adult, and although I strongly agree that this kid should not be in this particular class (if he does have psychological deficiencies), but the teacher seems to be the conservative type who just accepts whichever student is being given to her.

I met this boy's mother once, during a mass demonstration at my daughter's school. My daughter actually went up to her, asked her if she was the boy's mommy, and told her that he was always hurting her. The mother just nodded and turned away.
It looked to me like she was the defensive kind, and I hated how she reacted, but oh well, to each his own.
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