How would you react if you found out that your child was naughty at school ,disturbing classes , not paying attention to the teachers and using bad language speaking to his/her teachers when he/she was warned by them to stop?What discipline method would you adopt with your child ?

I think what I did would depend on the child and their interests. If they liked TV, I would stop them watching it, if they liked their computer I would stop them using that etc.

I woudl also sit down and talk to them, try to find out why they were behaving i that way and try to teach them why that is not the right way to behave.

I woudl be very worried and disappointed if it happened as I would feel that it woudl indicate that my parenting skills were not good enough.

Originally Posted by HappyMom

How would you react if you found out that your child was naughty at school ,disturbing classes , not paying attention to the teachers and using bad language speaking to his/her teachers when he/she was warned by them to stop?What discipline method would you adopt with your child ?

First of all, I have found that if a child respects their parents and have been brought up with proper manners, then a parent whould not be getting these kinds of surprises from their childrens schools. My comment is by no means to in regards to you directly, but they are an overview of this generation in general.

My sons usually responded well to a firm talking to, but in that talk I told them about logical consequences, like being placed in a different class that wasn't nearly as pleasant, or the teacher being able to take actions that I could not, or would not, exercise influence over.

The prospects of being at the mercy of relative strangers always seemed to improve their behavior.

Originally Posted by mtrent

First of all, I have found that if a child respects their parents and have been brought up with proper manners, then a parent whould not be getting these kinds of surprises from their childrens schools. My comment is by no means to in regards to you directly, but they are an overview of this generation in general.

However , that rule doesn't work always . I have been contacted by parents who said that their child was such a disciplined and well behaved kid at home, but at schools he was the most naughty student.They couldn't explain how that may happened.
Also , I have been told of children being nasty at home but well behaved in school .

I was just like that as a child. At school I was a perfect student, never once stepped out of line. It was at home when I mis behaved.

I would be utterly devestated if I was told my kids were naughty at school, as I have brought mine up to respect others, especially of the teachers and others adults that she comes into contact with.

I am just very happy that my daughter is not like that and knows how to respect elders and doesn't speak any inappropriate languages at all.
I think that kids who do this have questionable guardians / parents. We cannot always blame the school when children behave this way, it is after all in our homes where children develop the virtues and morals they will soon use in the outside world as they grow older.

Parents who have kids like these should double-check themselves, or the other people living in the same house. Are they being good examples to their children?

At the moment y children are very polite and well behaved, I just hope that this lasts! I aim to do everything I can, both by teaching them how to behave and by setting a good example, in order to keep things this way.

Sometimes television can also be the cause of these kinds of behavior. I know a lot of children who grow up in a very respectful environment and whose parents are great folks but they tend to seem like the total opposite of them and these kids have all these disappointing attributes and don't know the meaning of the word "respect".

Influences, like the television, can be very harmful to these kids if left unsupervised, therefore it is always best to have an adult watch television with the young ones in order to supervise what kind of shows they are watching.

Not only television but even their peers may have a bad influence on some kids ,especially on those with low self-esteem that would do anything that sounds crazy and uncommon to gain their friends admiration , appreciation and affection.