Okay, so my husband & I have been together for almost 3 years, married for 1. We have 2 little girls together, he has 2 sons from a previous relationship, & I have a daughter from a previous relationship. The 3 girls live with us, obviously, while the boys live with their mother & we rarely see them. I do mean rarely... I've only met them once & that was last Thanksgiving. They are 12 & 15 now. My husband pays his child support, every payday because it is from Texas & they just automatically take it out of your paycheck.

I just recently found out that the boys are in foster care. We didn't learn this from Child Support Agency or any government office. It came from a mutual friend of hubby's & his ex-wife. The boys were being typical teenagers (near as I can tell) and she just couldn't handle them. I'm wondering if I should do my best to get the boys up here with us, or if I should leave them in Texas in foster care. What do you guys think? I'm not even 100% sure they are in foster care, like I said its just here say from a friend. I've been flirting with the idea of calling the Child Support Agency in Texas to find out if they are in foster care.

I think it is important that your husband, as their father, try and confirm where the boys are as soon as possible, but rather than leap in and decide they should move in with you, arrange a meeting with them and qualified social workers to find out what has been going on and to help decide what is the best solution for the children moving forward.

If they have have been estranged from their father for several years, they may need time to rebuild a relationship with him before considering a move into your home..it is big step..but in the short term, confirm that they are safe and offer support and regular contact.

I would agree that your husband should find out where they are and why they are there. It is best to just get all the facts before you make a decision on whether they should live with you or not. They are of the age now where they will they do need to have some say so to an extent where they want to live. But definently get all your facts first before preceding.

If your husband has been paying for child support, then the children should not be in foster care. You should definitely try calling the Child Support Agency and find out if whether the kids are or aren't in foster care, your husband has the right to know.
Then if they are in foster care, then your husband and you should have a long talk and decide together what is the best thing to do about the matter.