With the medical advancements there are today you can definately have a child over thirty. It then becomes a question of what you want or where you are heading with your life. Do you want to be 50 something when the kid finally leaves the house? How will that effect long term goals like retirement? Especially if you have to help pay for college. Just take the time to concider everything. Do what you feel is right and be sure to have the support from a good doctor.

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Your question strikes me a little funny (no disrespect at all intended) because I was 29 when I had my first successful pregnancy and 33 with the second. My parents were in their 30's when they had their kids, and my husband's parents were in their 30's when they had theirs. My obstetician said that at 33 I wasn't quite at the age of "concern" (mid-thirties), but these days women have babies in their forties.

I think parents who are good and mature when they have their children make better parents anyway. I was far more able to do without sleep in my thirties than I had been in my early twenties.

Particularly if you'd be in your early thirties - I don't think you should think twice about it. Even late thirties, though, isn't a big problem.

Another nice thing about having children in your thirties is that you get to feel young (having younger kids) longer.

Don't be scared! Like the other posters said as long as you take care of yourself and can physically deal with the demands of a newborn, go for it. I just had my 4th baby and I'm 37. IMHO, you have more life exeprience now so you can be smarter about your wants and needs.

I know several people who have had babies in their mid and late 30s. Most of them were uneventful pregnancies with healthy babies. I think the key is the mom starting out healthy and staying that way throughout.

I have debated this exact same thing. I am 37 and have thought about having another child but am afraid that I won't be able to. So I am afraid to make the leap.

I have seen so many people successfully having healthy pregnancies in their 30's so I will say go for it. I myself are almost 34 and just found out I'm pregnant again and this one will not be my last.

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I have seen so many people successfully having healthy pregnancies in their 30's so I will say go for it. I myself are almost 34 and just found out I'm pregnant again and this one will not be my last.

It's so very different today than it was in the past... even like 20 years ago. Many people are choosing to wait to start families until they're in their 30s so it's become more the norm than ever.

Since this is an older post, I'm wondering how the original poster is getting along now... were you able to get pregant again? If so, you could have a baby by now!

I was over 30 when I had my twins. I felt fit and healthy and the birth was great.

I would advise you to voice your concerns to your doctor before you start trying so they can advise you on any special precautions you should take. I started taking a multivitamin with folic acid while I was trying to get pregnant and ate a balanced diet with plenty of fruit and veg and also lots of protein and iron.

I know someone (a friend's mother) who was able to conceive at 41, and their child is healthy and normal, and the mother did not go through any complications either. However, I also happen to know somebody from church who gave birth around that age bracket and she delivered a special child who has mental problems.

But I think 35 is still pretty young, I have a relative who got pregnant at 34 and she's still very fit and so is her son.