Originally Posted by schmuley

I kicked a hole in the wall when I was a teenager, and I also threw my sneaker through a window. The good news is that I'm still around, and pretty well adjusted, actually. I think the best thing you can do is to help your son find a constructive outlet for his emotions. The worst thing you can do is to force him to repress or ignore them. HTH, Sam

I totally agree with this. I think too many parents are alarmed by anger when it is a necessary and normal fact of being human. It let's us know that something isn't right, or that we are being treated unfairly.

It helps to teach kids how to take action to resolve issues such as these, so that they can be effective adults.

My daughter really seems to be developing quite an attitude and she's not even turned 12 yet, truthfully I don't know how in the world to handle this.

Originally Posted by Lisa2900

My oldest son is 14, his temper got the best of him the other day and he punched a hole in the wall. Hes a good boy and said that he didn't do it on purpose and I believe him. I think it scared him more then us when he did it and then looked back and saw the huge hole in the wall!! Have any of you gone through this with your teens? How do I help him deal with his anger issues before they get out of hand? I am scared that the older he gets the more they are going to flare up.

sorry, but its really horrible. i haven't seen such things but yes, one of my neighbor's son was something like that. he used to hit the floor with his head. its kinda dangerous but i think we should treat them psychologically, this will be the best.

Well it is normal to get very angry or very emotional at times, and sometimes when we don't have an outlet to these kinds of emotions we surprise ourselves with actions we'd otherwise think is crazy.
I'd say instead of worrying about your son's temper, have a talk with him. Ask him if he feels he has no control over his anger and if it happens often. Also make sure to let him know that it is important that he be honest with you because you would like to not have this conversation again.
Have him know and feel that you are just concerned, and would like to help if he feels he needs help.

You're going to have to coach him through his anger because if you don't catch it now you are going to have a huge problem on your hands later. I think that some people treat anger differently and punching holes in the wall just might be the way he does things. Has he taken his anger out on anyone else lately?