My elder daughter is 13 years of age. In my opinion, she is very lazy. She sleeps until late morning daily, then brushes her teeth, take breakfast, shall I say lunch, and then rush to school. In my times, when I am of her age, I did everythings around the house. Sweeping and mopping the floor, washing the dishes, wiping the electrical appliances etc. are my routine house works in helping out my mum. At that times, I did them voluntarily, without being asked.

The thing here is even I asked my daughter repeatedly, she just won't do it. She gives all sorts of excuses such as she is too busy with her homeworks and too tired. I am really getting frustrated at this situation and I don't know how much longer I can control myself before hitting her. Do you have any ideas how to teach her to be more responsible by helping out around the house?

I would tell her to help with the household chores, not ask her to help. When she asked for money to go out with friends or if she wanted a new pair of jeans I wouldn't give her any money and explain that she had to help with the chores. If she was getting an allowance I would stop giving it to her and tell her that she wasn't doing anything to get the money. I would tell her that, as a family, we all have jobs to make the family run right. Her job was to go to school and help out with chores.

If she sleeps late go into her room and get her out of bed and if she said she was too tired I would ask why and still get her out of bed.

You need to be firm with her. You are the mom and the one making the rules. She has to listen to you and to do as told. If she wants you to buy her things or give her money to go out with friends then she has to do something to earn the money.

Tell her in the real world no one gets anything for free. We all have to work, get out of bed, eat meals at the right time, and to do things to help out the family.

Be firm and if she gets angry, let her. She'll get over it.

Originally Posted by skatss

I would tell her to help with the household chores, not ask her to help. When she asked for money to go out with friends or if she wanted a new pair of jeans I wouldn't give her any money and explain that she had to help with the chores. If she was getting an allowance I would stop giving it to her and tell her that she wasn't doing anything to get the money. I would tell her that, as a family, we all have jobs to make the family run right. Her job was to go to school and help out with chores. If she sleeps late go into her room and get her out of bed and if she said she was too tired I would ask why and still get her out of bed. You need to be firm with her. You are the mom and the one making the rules. She has to listen to you and to do as told. If she wants you to buy her things or give her money to go out with friends then she has to do something to earn the money. Tell her in the real world no one gets anything for free. We all have to work, get out of bed, eat meals at the right time, and to do things to help out the family. Be firm and if she gets angry, let her. She'll get over it.

I give her pocket money everyday as her tea school break during the afternoon. I did tell her that if she don't do works around the house, she won't get them. Guess what? She says fine! She rather goes hungry than giving in to me. I did that for a few days. In the end, I am the one who gave up first. I can't stand the facts that my child is going hungry just because the parents refused to give them money. I'm afraid it might bring untold illness to her.

You know why she sleep until so late? Because she staying up late till wee hours of the morning to do homeworks. She told me her friends also do the same things. I did try to ask her to do her homeworks in the next morning but she just too stubborn. Well I guess she gets that from me.

Currently, she is learning how to make money online through the net. I guess after a couple of months, she will be able to do earn enough for her pocket money.