My twins are 33 months old. I have not started properly potty training them yet as I find the whole thing daunting. They both sit on the potty before their bath and one consistently goes each night, the other on the very odd occasion. In the mornings, the one that goes at night will sit on the potty and try to go, but never does and the other refuses to try.

I have been told to let them play outside with nothing on and train them that way but I have a tiny gravel yard which is overlooked by 7 houses and am not keen to have the neighbours watching and the boys would need shoes and socks on to play which could get yukky.

I also tried sitting them on the potty every 30 mins but they just began to resent being on there and never went on there.

I tried letting them just wet themselves so they could get used to the nasty feeling but after 2 hours I ran out of clean pants and trousers.

Can anyone help?? Please....!

Praise! Lots and lots of praise! Big boys use the potty, wow look what X has done, what a clever boy!

It's not easy at all, and I think you're going to have to prepare yourself for lots of wet clothes and accidents.

don't push the potty at the one who doesn't want to sit on it. You'll only make him anti. If he sees his brother get lots of praise and attention then perhaps he'll want some of that for himself.

I agree with what you are already doing and also with what green-moo said above.

My youngest two children have special needs and I was able to potty train my biological one by age 2 1/2 with some advice from a behavior specialist. The other child was adopted at age 3 using the same advice I was able to potty train him within a few months (accept at night).

The behavioral specialist said to watch the diapers and closely to get an idea of when they are going on their own. Once you have established any type of natural toileting times, set the child on the potty for a few minutes during that time. If they happen to go, praise a lot! Celebrate! Do not make the child sit for extended times, or force the issue if they don't want to. In time the child that doesn't like it will want to do what his brother is doing if it is praised.

Mornings and night time are great times to do what you are already doing.

If you can switch to underwear at all, it is a huge motivator. I always had a difficult time training a child in diapers or pull-ups because they don't feel wet and don't mind wetting themselves.

Thank you for the advice. My youngest is now going in the mornings on the potty when I change him out of his pyjamas. I have decided that once we are home tomorrow, as we will be out in the garden a lot, I will put him in some 'bog boy pants' and see how he gets on. I will obviously make sure we have the potty on hand and keep gently asking him if he needs to use it. I will see how successful it is and then decide whether to persevere or leave it a little bit longer.

Originally Posted by racheldarcy

My twins are 33 months old. I have not started properly potty training them yet as I find the whole thing daunting. They both sit on the potty before their bath and one consistently goes each night, the other on the very odd occasion. In the mornings, the one that goes at night will sit on the potty and try to go, but never does and the other refuses to try. I have been told to let them play outside with nothing on and train them that way but I have a tiny gravel yard which is overlooked by 7 houses and am not keen to have the neighbours watching and the boys would need shoes and socks on to play which could get yukky. I also tried sitting them on the potty every 30 mins but they just began to resent being on there and never went on there. I tried letting them just wet themselves so they could get used to the nasty feeling but after 2 hours I ran out of clean pants and trousers. Can anyone help?? Please....!

With my twins, it was better to set a schedule based on how long it took for fluid to fill their bladders, then consistently place them on the potty chair when it was time.

They were potty trained at 24 months.

Learning to use the potty was never a choice for them. I insisted.

I remember having a hard time potty training my daughter, and just giving up. Then suddenly, just out of the blue, she learned how to potty! I don't recall ever pushing her into doing it, we just taught her how and what to do, then she just learned by herself.

It feels so good to hear them call you and say that they need to pea.

How old was she when she did this? I can feel pressure to hurry things up as they boys will be starting Nursery in September and they need to be potty trained before they start. I also feel that they should be dry before they are 3 as most people seem to think that is far to old to be in nappies (in the day at least).

I asked them if they wanted to wear big boy pants this afternoon and they both said no, although one asked to sit on the toilet but sat there for 2 seconds and did nothing (he still got praise for trying).

My daughter was around 2 years old when she learned how to potty. I actually have very little recollection of the whole thing because I really did not do much of an effort at all, it was very simple for me. We did not have to hard train her, we just taught her like an adult and she followed through.

I asked the boys yesterday if they wanted to wear big boy pants and they both said no. When I asked one of them why he said because he didn't like being wet and so I took the opportunity to explain that is why he needs to use the potty when he is wearing them. I didn't put them in the pants though as I remembered that i need to have a lot of clean clothes for tomorrow as we are going to a funeral (I am only taking the boys to the wake) but I want them to have some smart clothes plus spares!

I might try them in pants again at the weekend when I have my husband to help.

I put my kids on potty as early as from 7 months every 3 hours and keep them on potty for 1o minutes. At the beginning they didn't do anything cause they didn't understand why they sit there , but in two weeks the first results showed up . I would reward them with a new toy and something sweet to eat and many many kisses anytime they did on potty .