I think I am in the way I tried to be there more for my kids and let them have a childhood which is something I never had .. I had way too many responsibilities for a kid and missed out on the fun time..I see myself trying to help my daughter now to not make the mistakes I did when raising her children...although it is sometimes difficult to get her to listen....imagine that

I can not say that I am a better then my parents were. I find that some of the values my parents taught me I carried it on to my children. But yet you learn from your parents, and they were not perfect. So you learn by this and teach that to your children.

I don't what to say, since a situations are totally different, my mom has us while she was doing college, while I finished school before starting a family, that's to her. So she was able to spend a little more time with us kids.

In many important ways we were better than my parents; we told our kids we loved them daily and loved them no matter what, we "tolerated dissent" (my father's phrase) in all things and did not judge it as a lack of their love, we played ball, boardgames, and watched movies together, we didn't judge their music or dress, and we gave our kids information about sex from a young age, and provided them with contraceptives when they asked us to.
It's the same old story, I guess; our daughter thought we were bad parents in her young adulthood, but since she has had two kids she thinks we were more than fine.

Yes, I definitely am a better parents than mine and to tell the truth is not hard for me to be since they neglected me all my childhood.
I want to live that long to become a grandparent some day and be a better grandparent than my kids' grandparents .

I do a few things differently - for example I was a twin and they treated me identically to my sister. I have twins and I do not treat them alike. They think this is terrible and I should be treating them the same but they are so different that this is almost impossible.

As to whether who is a better parent, I would say them as they have more experience but I think only time will tell. I was happy at how I turned out and if the boys have my self-discipline, good temper, patience, determination and positivity then I will know that i have done my job well.

i do find myself spouting my mothers and fathers words on ocassion. but for the most part I am very different than my mom... different in attitude and cooking house keeping and whats important..........

heaven help us all.....
julie

My mother had made a lot of mistakes when I was kid, that at such a ripe mind I have told myself to never make the same mistakes with my children.

Now that I am a mother, I do my best to spend more time with my kids than my mother does because she has the exact same influences and characteristics (in fact, getting worse) that I don't want my children to be exposed with.
But since I am always pregnant and always in bed, I find it hard to be able to be around my kids more, and my mother happens to be there for them more.

So, as much as I hate how my mother has brought me up with such bad examples of herself, I cannot fully say that I am a better mother than her because I am hardly around my kids at all. It breaks my heart but it is the truth.