Originally Posted by Mommy In Pink*

, I would hate to hurt them for no reason.

ooh, but hurting them for no reason is not called "disciplining " , it's more like a crime . Not even with a good reason a child should not be hurt , but disciplined .
And a child needs to be disciplined -and not hurt - when he did something wrong on purpose, no any other reason should be accepted in order to discipline a child. You cannot punish a child who did a mistake involuntary.