Parental Filter

How can I help my parents with their relationship? I know that things are not ok between them. They are showing some signs of a troubled marriage according to the online article that i've read. Do you think i can help them fix their relationship? I'm just their daughter. They might be angry with me for intervening their relationship. Please help me. Need some advice. I don't want them to end up in divorce court.

First of all you need to know that you are not the reason they are breaking up. It's obvious that's it affecting you. Ask them to with you so you can tell them how you feel.

I agree with Liza. Not to blame yourself. Talk to them also. Perhaps seeing things from their point of view may clarify things for you.

Hi Petals, Unless your parents have specifically mentioned to you that they are having difficulties, I would leave well alone. Not every relationship is as cut and dried as articles can make them appear.

Sometimes adults can seem to be cross with each other when they are not really. Me and my husband get snappy with each other when we are tired or over worked and we do not mean it. This can happen over a long period of time if we are busy and we seem to be constantly at loggerheads but really there is not a problem between us, we are just generally stressed out.

I would talk to your parents about how you feel as hopefully they will be able to explain why they are being like that and put your mind at rest.

I agree with Green-Moo, Petals. Try not to read too much into things. It may really not be as bad what you think because all couples go through good and bad times.

The best thing you can do is just be a good kid and not give them anything else to worry about. When and if they feel they need to discuss it with you they shall and not before, so just try your best to help keep things at home as smooth as possible. You're obviously a nice kid though because you took the time to ask.

You could be worried over nothing, petals. As some of us here have mentioned, sometimes adults just act this way when they are tired or stressed out, but it does not mean that they plan on getting a divorce. It is how I act with my husband as well, we raise our voices and sometimes we ignore each other but it is only how we handle ourselves when we're in a fix. It is like the other becomes the outlet of our frustrations at work, etc., but it certainly does not mean that we will be leaving each other soon.

I understand when my husband gets this way, and my husband also understands when it's me who acts like this. It's never been anything major for the both of us, and probably, it isn't either for both your mom and dad.

I would suggest that you speak to an aunt or uncle or a grandparent. You can even try your Priest or Rabbi. It's hard speaking to a parent about this but if you're afraid to then go to someone else.

I will tell you that when I was a teen my parents were arguing all the time at one point and I was afraid that they would end up divorced. I asked my mother about it and she was shocked. She said that all people argue when they live together and that;s all that was going on then. She hugged me and told me not to worry.

My parents remained together until my dad died and were always very happy. I was worried over nothing.

Leave adult matters to adults. They know best. They won't take any advice from kids. No to mention the facts that you might interpret their relationships wrongly. Are they yelling and throwing things at each other? No? Then there is nothing you should worry about. It is just part and parcel of a marriage life or shall I say family life.

Dear, let them to deal their matter but yes, let them know that you are not feeling good. If situation will go wrose then, talk to them.