Does anybody use these programs?

They are supposed to log all activity from MSN sessions. They basically let you read everything that your child writes or reads in their MSN sessions.

I know it's an invasion of privacy but would you guys agree with me that in this case it's justified?

Originally Posted by Shelly

I know it's an invasion of privacy but would you guys agree with me that in this case it's justified?

I think that there are a lot of factors to consider in this discussion. How old is the child? Do you have reason to believe that the child is engaging in risky online communications? Do you intend to let your child know that you have this monitor running? Why do you want to use this software? Do you trust your child to remain within the boundaries that you set for their online activities?

I think that this kind of software can be a valuable element in a larger plan. I've just heard too many cases involving parents who used this kind of package in place of actually physically monitoring their child's online time or keeping the lines of communication open.

To me, one of the most valuable aspects of this kind of software is that it provides a record of inappropriate communication that can be taken to the service provider if your child is targeted by a predator in an age appropriate area.

also if you are talking about pre teens or teenagers...they are pretty agressive ..and dont want others to invade their privacy as such...

there is this program called Msg Plus which can log msn chat conversations..

I don't think this is a issue for a child to decide. While he or she is under your roof and your roof they are your responsibilty and at least untill 18 you are a fully fledged legal guardian.

Having said that you should excersise caution and remember that trust between you and your child is VERY important.

yes swift..trust is one thing which we build our relationships upon..if we lose the trust..by some silly kind of spying..

they will be really upset...and this could lead to further problems..

I think it's good to have in place and to tell your child up front that their use of those programs is conditional upon allowing you to log the conversations. Tell them that you never intend to go in and read them unless you feel like your child is giving you a reason to, so they just need to behave and you won't ever have to check the logs. Would that maybe work?

Spying on your children is never justified. The fact that you would feel the need to spy on your children is all that needs to be said about your obvious ineffectiveness as a parent. The most impoortant thing you can teach your child is integrity. Once they learn that everything else will fall into line. Actions speak louder than words and a parent that spies on their children obviously lacks integrity.