I felt a little angry at my mother-in-law too when I first had children. But after a while I calmed down and saw that, even though she expressed her opinions poorly, some of her advice was pretty valid.

If I don't agree with her I won't fight with her, just kind of smile and nod my head but sometimes I'll go back home and think about what she said. If the advice was bad I'd let it go but if there was some sense in what she said I'd think about it and see if I could use her advice by using my methods.

Oh yes, this sounds familiar. My husband's mother is possibly the most dominating woman in the world, she always makes the decisions for my husband and me regarding our son, or even my pregnancy. She decides which hospital I'd go to as if she'd even look at the bill. It's very frustrating to be in my shoes and have a mother-in-law who is nothing less than a "know-it-all".

And, as if that wasn't bad enough, my husband just absolutely worships his mother. Every time I try to defy her decisions and make one up for myself and our son, we'd always get into heated-up arguments and he becomes so defensive of his mother that it is impossible to get any of my point across.
His mother calls him every hour (can you believe that?), and even though we are already living on our own, my husband is still the one who does errands for her everyday. I have nothing against his love for his mom, but seriously, sometimes it gets out of hand.

Wow, that is a very vexatious situation ,Mommy in Pink....you should try to do something to change that . It is not normal that a mother -in -law interfere in your family that way. Maybe you should talk to her rather than with your husband and explain how her interventions affect your marriage and her son happiness finally .

Originally Posted by HappyMom

Wow, that is a very vexatious situation ,Mommy in Pink....you should try to do something to change that . It is not normal that a mother -in -law interfere in your family that way. Maybe you should talk to her rather than with your husband and explain how her interventions affect your marriage and her son happiness finally .

The only real time I've spoken up to her was during my son's christening, I had chosen a godmother for my son, she was one of my very close friends and she had been my best friend since we were in fifth grade. Now, everything would have been fine except for one thing, my mother-in-law would hear nothing of it. She would not let me have my friend as the godmother of my son simply because my friend is also a single mother (she got pregnant out of wedlock).

Now, probably from some really conservative corners of the world she has a point, but I am one of those who do not judge people and I absolutely hated her guts to not allow me -the mother- pick out my own son's godmother.

I vowed I would attend the christening if my friend couldn't go, but I still ended up going because my husband begged me to.

After that incident I have just tried my best to never cross paths with her again, and so I just stay away from the woman as much as possible. I could never talk to her seriously and express to her how I feel.