Originally Posted by riskey58

I think that that is so wrong. Sometimes it can be a much rougher life for the child if you stay together. Believe it or not the kids can feel and see the friction between you and their father. So sometimes it is better to part and move on.

Yes, this is true . And unfortunately is true even the other way : sometimes it can be a much rougher life for the child if you don't stay together .
There is no guarantee that the separation would bring a life like in Eden for the separated family , many couples will continue to hurt each other for years after their divorce .
Not so long ago , more precisely on December last year, I've read about a man who shooted his wife because she was divorcing him just in front of their kinder-garden kids , more he hurt one of them . Few hours after that he shooted himself to death too. I suppose their life together was a living hell and that's why she wanted to divorce...but was this really the best solution in that case ? 'Cause in my opinion is better to be alive -even suffering - than dead . Neither the kids are better now , with both parents dead and nightmares of their father shouting their mother .
This is an extreme situation is true , my point is we shouldn't consider as a certainty that the things would necessary had been much better the other way.

It's far worse for the children if parents who don't get along remain in the house just for their children.

Divorce might be hard for the kids at first but in the long run they will have a better relationship with their parents if the parents are happier living apart from each other.

there was a situation in our house and while my parenst stayed together, i know theyloved eachother my father coudl nto stand to be in the house. After w hile i got it in myhead I had to leave( no i was not the problem another person was) so they coudl deal with that other person. I ran off and got married... when thinsg settled down I cam back home and divorced my daughters father......
staying together at times is not good. If youave the ability to stay married and live apart that works well,. because the coming home for short bursts is just enough not to get crazy.

julie