I was watching a movie about kids that have divorced parents the other day and alot of them seemed confused. Some of the parents were telling them that the other parent was bad and not to see them at all.

What do you think divorced parents kids feel?

Hello a child knows more about the divorce process than any. The child is number one but their only concern is of embarisment amoungst their peers and please the juvenile adults.......Power to the children!!!!!

I would agree here. A child is forced to grow up very quickly when the parents divorce. Therefore they do understand a lot more then the parents give them credit for.

Divorce affect the children more that it affects the parents. The mere indication that there will be a divorce in his/her family is already hard. More so if each parent keeps telling the kid how bad the other partner is.

From experience, I know that children can grow up significantly confused and very affected by divorce.

My parents divorced when I was nine and to this day I still deal with the aftermath.

Unfortunatley, things can turn nasty way too easily and that is why my daughter will never know her grandmother.

It is very, very sad.

I think that if you have children it is important to include them and help them understand the process. That being said, I dont think they should be dragged into the nastieness of it all. And I do agree with the others that children often know far more than the parents expect.

This really depends on how old the child is when the divorce takes place, how good the parents are at making their being separated a normal thing for their family, the sorts of messages getting through to the child from other adults.

My husband has two daughters from a previous marriage and they both seem to know very well what is going on. If the parents are able to be calm with each other in front of the kids and still support the role the other parent has in their child's life, I think the children will understand. It's when the adults get emotional and add a lot of hurtful words around that children become confused mainly from hurting seeing their parents behave like children themselves.

Originally Posted by swiftmom007

I would agree here. A child is forced to grow up very quickly when the parents divorce. Therefore they do understand a lot more then the parents give them credit for.

Even i agree that the child are forced to grow up very quickly then their parents are divorced. they get over freedom, they feel like its the bad life, luck unjustified them, they are not among those who get the parents life, etc. they start living of their own, in their own way with their own different mentality because divorce effects the children's mentality.

Originally Posted by swiftmom007

I would agree here. A child is forced to grow up very quickly when the parents divorce. Therefore they do understand a lot more then the parents give them credit for.

Not only they do understand more but they do suffer more than the parents would think. Even when things go smoothly and the child has a good stepfather/stepmother ,he/she'll continue to suffer deep down , though usually will try to hide that from his parents .Despite of all efforts made to provide them a life as normal possible as it can be , divorced parents children feel embarrassed in the society and among peers that are not in the same situation.